A student who fell in love with her teacher - what to do??

A situation-





There's a young teacher in a private school. He is the youngest among the faculty, not really handsome but has a strong charismatic personality. Naturally, he is popular among his students. Things were going okay until one day, one of his female students in his homeroom class approached him to confide and ask advise regarding her family problem. Being their homeroom adviser, he naturally offered some words of wisdom and advise and comforted her. That was the start of something else. The student, at first, started to be friendly towards her teacher. The teacher responded cordially to her approaches. But soon, she confessed her feelings towards him, which took him in surprise. It's a given fact that student-teacher relationship is a big taboo everywhere. Here's the dilemma: tell the student off, possibly hurting her feelings, and affecting her academics and her behavior towards him; or entertain her for a while, hoping that her infatuation would soon wear out. What to do?

A student who fell in love with her teacher - what to do??
It took the student a lot to actually confess her feelings for you. Look at it from her perspective and probably, that will deter you(or whoever it concerns) from thoughts of wanting to seek help from superiors or informing her parents. There is really no need to inform her parents or anyone else at this point. She gathered a lot of courage to do what she did and by doing so, you'll hurt her deeply. The hurt will fade away with the passing of time, but is there really a need to inflict this hurt on her?





Honestly, I can't make sense out of the big taboo about students liking teachers. They are only human beings with emotions and we all succumb to our emotions at times, don't we? No offence but I feel that you should not make a mountain out of a molehill and tell on her confession. Tell her blatantly about your position as a teacher. She will come to terms with that. Let her know, gently, that you see her as nothing more than a student. Don't start avoiding her because that'll only run the risk of making the whole situation awkward. Treat her as you'd treat any other student. Chances are, she'll soon accept the fact that shes just another student to you and that the status distinction between the both of you makes it impossible.





Remember that she didn't choose to fall for you. If we could all control our emotions, there'll be no heartbreaks in the world and love will cease to exist.





All the best :)
Reply:The teacher only has discussions with the student in the presence of others...whether with the door open or in the hallway. The teacher should notify the principal with the situation or another teacher. The teacher should NEVER be alone with the student.
Reply:Go immediately to the principal and tell the principal what happened. Tell the girl that you have a girlfriend, even if you don't, and that you are not interested. She'll soon lose interest and look elsewhere. Young girls often get infatuated with young male teachers. Happens all the time.
Reply:This is a child. "Hurting her feelings" may not seem like a good way to go about it, but the MOST IMPORTANT THING is the child's safety, not her feelings. Children are resilient and bounce back from hurt feelings, she probably won't remember the incident in a year. She may not bounce back from an inappropriate relationship with her teacher, it could negatively affect the rest of her life!





Edit -- I think the most important thing here was outlined in mommyofthree's answer: The teacher must ALWAYS ensure that another adult is present when conferring with the child! This is for the teacher's as well as the student's protection! He must not even take the chance of becoming another statistic or news article, it will ruin his life as well.
Reply:This teacher needs to sit her student down in the presence of another adult , and explain that while it's flattering that she has feelings for this teacher that it's inappropriate to have a relationship because he is her superior(teacher) and because there is an age difference. I would have know problem informing the parents or this student to be there also.
Reply:havent you watched the news about teacher-student relationships??? Tell the student that it is a big no-no to have a relationship with the teacher.
Reply:ew no don't intertain for one second, it only leads her to think there is a chance and will cause a bigger heartbreak when he tells her there is none..if he has no desire for a relationship with her then he should...nip it in the bud!
Reply:You should go to your supervisor and inform him/her of the problem to cover your *** legally. Ignore the problem and it will go away because your student will eventually see that you are not interested. This will make it so you don't have to confront the problem head on and it will solve itself. Normally, I would tell you to confront the issue outright, but this is a delicate situation that needs to be handled appropriately. Teachers these days are basically held prisoner in their own classroom because at any time, any student could claim that you had a relationship and then you're screwed. People in general tend to believe the student and look at the teacher as a sexual predator. You don't want to piss this girl off and have her freak out and say something happened between you. Most of all, AVOID ANY SITUATION THAT COULD BE MISCONSTRUED AS INTIMATE AT ALL COSTS!